How is your love life going??
So, it’s Thursday and it’s time for our weekly episode of Only On Vasiti – Agony Aunt Series.
Today, we are going to be looking at emotional abuse in the relationship.
People do not only go through physical abuse, they also go through emotional abuse, and this can be caused by many ways, either through hurtful words or through threats. Let’s take a look at this report :
“Hello, Agony Aunt.
I’m so confused. I’m in my early twenties and I have a boyfriend whom I have been dating for a year now. Sometime ago, my boyfriend told me that we are most likely going to breakup since after school, everyone is going to go their different ways. I really did not see this coming. I love him and I want to be with him for long. I was really scared and told my friends to beg him not to break up with me. His statement was more or less like a warning. Fast forward to weeks later, I met this guy who is really serious about me. I gave him a chance because of the statement my boyfriend made, but I do not like him the way I love my boyfriend. Tbh, I and the new guy never did anything sexually related. My boyfriend later found out about this new guy from a third party, and he accused me of cheating. He brought out conversations about this new guy and he threatened to break up with me. I willingly accepted the accusation and begged him to forgive me. He did forgive me few days later, but he has brought this same issue up again and is threatening to break up with me. I really do not know what to do. I’ve been begging and begging. I love my boyfriend, but I can’t continue like this. What do I do?
– Anonymous. “
This is sad, tbh.
The constant threats of your boyfriend is going to hurt you emotionally if you continue to stay in the relationship. You love your boyfriend, yes, but your mental state of mind and inner peace should be what’s paramount to you, and if your boyfriend wants to ruin it, then please, leave him before he ruins you.
You did not come to this World to kill yourself on top a relationship. There are better guys out there.
Generally speaking, if you are in a relationship where you have to question your emotional stability, mental health, and inner peace, then please walk out before it is too late. If you are in a relationship where you are not happy, if it cannot be fixed, please walk out.
The more you remain in such toxic relationships, the more pain and depression would creep into your life and eat up your joy.
In this particular case, the guy has already threatened to break up with her sooner or later by making that statement. This could be sorted out by communication and agreeing on what to do after school.
Then he is threatening her. Hello? If he wants to break up, he should do it once and for all without subjecting her to torture. I mean, she has apologised and accepted a wrong she did not even commit, but he is still playing with her emotions. This is just going overboard.
I would strongly advise that you lift your head high, dust your slippers and leave the relationship. Girl, you’re beautiful and powerful, the person who is best for you would find you and treat you like the queen that you are.
Don’t be scared of moving on, because if you stay in that relationship and hurt, that’s where you are going to remain until you take the big bold step of moving on and dropping the past behind you.
Just like what Beyonce says, “tell him ; boy, bye.” You should do this and watch how your life would flourish. It’s not going to be easy at first, but trust me, it’s going to be worth it in the end. ?
And for the guy, I would advise him not to throw his agression at his girlfriend. The fact that a lot of people break up after school does not mean they would break up. I feel they should both communicate with each other about their fate after school.
I understand that he would be angry that his babe gave another guy a chance pending their relationship, but he forgave her once, he does not have to bring it up again. If he is still mad at the girl, they could either discuss or he can break up once and for all, instead of putting her through emotional stress.
You have any comments or advise or questions for our anonymous and her boyfriend here, please do well to drop them in the comments section.
If you know anyone going through this, please refer them to this post. This may be their saving grace. You could also share this post on your social media pages for everyone to see. Let’s help each other and save ourselves from toxic relationships.
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Have a happy love life. ?