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Agony Aunt – Is Cheating Forgivable?

Cheating is a very big issue in relationships, and most times people do not heal from it; or if at all they do, it is a very slow process.

Why are we talking about this?

Many individuals in relationships have either cheated on their partners, or they have been cheated on.

Either ways, it hurts. Really bad. Now, the question is should you forgive a cheating partner?

Before you answer that, take a look at this mail I got last week:

Dear Agony Aunt,

Two months ago, my fianceé cheated on me with one of her colleagues from work. I would not have known, if she didn’t tell me. She confessed to me herself when she came to spend the weekend at my place.

According to her, it was a mistake, and she has felt guilty ever since.

I have been confused. Ever since she told me, I have not really looked at our relationship the same again, because it was very painful. I have always been 100 percent faithful to her; so of course I expected the same.

Do I continue the relationship, or do I break it off. I still love this girl, I am just really scared of being hurt again.

Here’s what I had to say:

Dear Writer,

Let me start by saying cheating is a choice; however it is not the end of the world, and it does not have to be the end of the relationship.

It is basically your choice. You say you love her. If you think you can heal and forgive her; then by all means go ahead with marriage plans. However, if it is too much for you to forgive, then maybe you should leave.

If not, you’ll grow to resent each other; and that does not spell for a healthy relationship.

Any advice for him? Drop them in the comment box.

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