Sometimes, people are the architects of their own problems. You will understand this when you read this mail I got last week:
Dear Agony Aunt,
I am in a long distance relationship, as my boyfriend is in Abuja and I in Lagos. So, I have been quarantining with a guy I met two months ago.
Although it wasn’t my intention; we kind of hit it off when we first met, and when he told me to stay with him for the lockdown, I was like, why not?
It hasn’t been that bad. The only thing is we have been having sex a lot and he doesn’t like to use a condom. So I’ve been using postinor.
But I’m still scared. Mistake can happen. I don’t want to get pregnant; I still love my boyfriend; and we’ve been talking marriage.
How do I tell this guy that I don’t want sex? I don’t want to leave his house, because he’s a really nice guy and I enjoy his company.
This was how I replied:
The only thing you need right now is to determine what is more important to you: your boyfriend, or a guy you met two months ago.
If you love your boyfriend and do want to take things to the next level with him; then another man’s house is the last place you should be, and having sex with him is the last thing you should be doing.
What do you think? Drop a piece of advice for her.
Meanwhile, send us your relationship issues if you want to talk: firstname.lastname@example.org