‘Covet not thy neighbour’s belongings‘. That is what the holy book says.
But what if the neighbour’s belongings do not even belong to the neighbour?
Let’s check out this mail I got last week:
Dear Agony Aunt,
So, one of my besties has a married man she’s dating (she has a boyfriend too o); and this man takes care of her, like, very well. More than his wife sef. Is it money? Is it clothes? See ehn, this man pays literally all her bills.
He even takes me and her out together sometimes, cos he knows me too; and he knows that we’re besties.
Now the issue is, there was a day he called me that my friend was angry with him and I should help him beg her. So, from then we started talking regularly. One thing led to another, and we slept together. But we agreed not to tell my friend.
And it has been a regular thing since then. He gives me money every time too.
I’m thinking of just snitching my friend to her boyfriend so that she can leave this married man for me, because me I love him, and I know he loves me too. Beides he is not happy with his wife.
I know many people will say I am a bad friend; but my friend already has a boyfriend, she should leave this one for me.
Well, this is quite controversial, isn’t it? Here’s how I responded:
Well, maybe you will be doing your friend a favour by doing what it is you want to do; so she can focus on her relationship.
On the other hand, you should know that most married men will not leave their wives for you. All that unhappy with his his wife story is exactly what it is – story.
But you can try your luck, you never know.
What is your take on this whole situation?
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