This week has seen a lot of topics trending, especially the issue of homophobia in Nigeria; after a young man was gruesomely murdered.
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On top of all of that, we got this mail just few days ago:
Dear Agony Aunt,
I am worried sick. In fact, over worry dey do me sef. It’s my boyfriend. This is someone I’ve been dating for close to three years oo. Three yearsss!
I’ve never had any reasons to doubt him; but my friends told me that when a man is that flawless, he may be cheating. So I decided to just go through his phone.
See ehn, the number of girls in his phone, are not even up to my five fingers. So that one no be issue.
The problem is, my man and his best friend’s chat, is too intimate for my liking. Too intimate.
Why should his friend be sending him dick pictures???? Immediately I saw it ehn, I just dropped the phone; I could not check further.
Like, I can’t wrap my head around this. Could my boyfriend be gay? Ahhh! Temi ti ba mi.
Here’s how I responded:
First things first, let’s put the hysterics aside. If not, you will not be able to think and act rationally.
Also, when you snoop through your man’a phone for the sole purpose of seeing something implicating, you will see what you do not want to see.
As for the issue of him being gay; maybe he is, maybe he’s not.
What if his best friend was showing him something of concern; the way girls do with their friends. You did mention that you didn’t even check further after that.
All I’m saying is, calm down, and talk to your man.
Lastly, listening to friends all the time will destroy your relationship.
What do you think? Could he be gay?
Also, drop your advice for her.