Domestic abuse is very rampant these days; and people have a lot of different opinions on the isue.
But, at what point should you be violent towards your partner?
Should you even be violent towards them at all?
Before we answer that, let’s check this mail I got last week out:
Dear Agony Aunt,
I have been married for five years. A year ago, I found out that my husband has been cheating on me with one university student.
I was deeply hurt, and although he begged and begged; even promising that it will never happen again; I just can’t seem to get over him.
I still love my husband, no doubt. But sometimes I just look at him and feel this urge to do something violent to him.
Sometimes I look at him when he’s sleeping and I just want to hurt him; make him feel pain like how I felt pain.
How can I overcome this? I really love him and I don’t want to do something I’ll regret.
That is a very agonizing story to read. This was how I replied:
Your case is not the first I have come across. I will advice you to consider therapy for yourself; as well as couples therapy for both you and your husband.
These feelings are borne out of the pain and hurt that you felt when you found out your husband cheated on you.
So, first things first; have a little talk with your husband; do the things you both used to do before all these began.
Things will begin to sort out from there.